
The impulse for revenge can be strong when you feel slighted or hurt. You might hear the common phrase, “Being happy is the best revenge.” But true happiness isn’t found in trying to get back at someone.
Then there’s the saying, “Revenge is a dish best-served cold.” But what does that really mean? You must be guarded, calculating, and distant to carry it out. Yet the most precious moments in life happen when your heart is open, alive, and vulnerable.
I experienced deep wounds in my childhood, and for years, I fantasized about revenge—making my attackers feel my suffering. But after much inner work, I realized I don’t want people to relate to suffering. I want them to relate to love, forgiveness, and openness.
Holding onto revenge keeps the weight of the past alive. I don’t want to carry that burden anymore.
The Golden Rule says: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Just because others don’t live by this doesn’t mean I can’t.
At the end of the day, what do I value most? Peace of mind. The truth of who I am is not my past, not my pain, not my fleeting emotions. They are things I witness, not things I am. There is a higher, quieter, lovelier part of me that gently reminds me:
"Yes, that happened. But it’s over now. You can let go. You can move forward."
And that—more than any act of revenge—sets me free.
What are you ready to let go of today? Take a deep breath, place your hand on your heart, and remind yourself: I am not my past. I am not my pain. I am free to move forward.
If this message resonated with you, hit reply and share your thoughts—I’d love to hear from you. And if you know someone who could use this reminder, pass it along. Let’s choose peace over revenge together. 💛
xx, LVA-